Luke and I are officially done with our PRIDE training through the CALL. It was a LONG two weekends to say the least. Most of the information wasn't new to us, it was just overwhelming to sit for that long of a period.
Yesterday, they had a panel come in to talk about their experiences with fostering. Since Luke and I are an adopt only family, we didn't learn very much. It was nice to hear their experiences and learn some new tricks, however we'd love to hear from an adopt only family.
Since starting this training, we've felt like there is a black mark against us for being "adopt" only. Being a Christian, I know the Lord calls us to do many things in life. Some people may agree with some things- and other things- they may not. That's just how it goes. However, during this whole process we've gotten the feeling that many feel Jesus only calls people to foster. We understand the need for fostering, we just aren't cut out for that. I know many kids come through state foster care in a day- hence the need for foster families, but at some point a parent's rights are terminated- hence the need for an adoptive family. So, we feel the Lord calling us to be an adoptive family to a sibling group. We'd love to have two kids, but isn't it just like the Lord to blow our socks of with 4?!?! Who knows what's ahead. We are willing and waiting.
From here on out, there is a lot of paperwork still to be done. This process could take anywhere from 1-2 years. We just don't know.
We do however feel Satan attacking at every turn. He's always there to give us doubt, make us question why we're even going through all the trouble, why not just have our own bio kids, and even causing others to say hurtful things to us. Even when we tell people we are going through the adoption process, a part of me notices, in some- the look of pity. They think, "oh, they can't have kids..." Well, we just don't know about that. We haven't been trying, and frankly don't want to right now. There are a ton of kids out there already who need loving homes- so why not give them a chance?
So, we're ready and waiting to see what kind of wild journey the Lord has for us. I'm just hoping I don't get whip lash!
2 comments:
Robbie and I would love to talk to you about adoption! We think it's amazing you are adopt only. Don't look to the left or right and listen to nay sayers, keep you eyes on God, that is the direction you need to go!
I really hope you don't get any more negative comments about only adopting. I think you are so brave and compassionate to want to give a child/children a chance at a wonderful life. I have 4 adopoted people in our extended family. And, they are a huge blessing to us. You and Luke will be great parents, and those kids will be so blessed to have you as thier parents. AND yes, I agree, that there are many children who need homes, and so for you to make that decision takes a lot of love and committment. And, yes, the devil will work hard on you and give you doubts, but that's what he does. Don't listen! I hope your journey to parent hood brings you the perfect desires of your heart. Praying for perfect timing. I love you guys! audra
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